“To He Who Has Little, Even What He Has Shall Be Taken Away.”

Approaching a situation or relationship from a place of loss, will simply further the sense of loss. “To he who has little, even what he has shall be taken away.”

It is tough to change your perspective on this, even when you know thinking about things differently is the only possible way to turn the situation around. The profound sense of loss, the pain in your heart, the sense of abandonment that is felt when someone isn’t showing you love, or is demonstrating the opposite of love, is hard to overcome because you feel like you’ll have to deceive yourself into believing something that “is”…, well, “isn’t.”

But let’s look at it this way – the Course in Miracles says the only thing missing in any situation is what you yourself are not bringing to it. So if you want love in a relationship – you have to bring the love. If you want peace, bring peace. And conversely, if you want blame, bring some blame to the communication. If you want defensiveness, put on your armor and put up your dukes because you are about to get what you give.

So to preserve what you want, love between you and someone else, you have to surrender to allow whatever you see to just be the case. Don’t view changes as losses. Rather see them as necessities of life, here to teach you how to love.